Notes on the "Meeting of Both Families"! The flow up to the day of the meeting, clothing, souvenirs, and etiquette are also explained!

■Complete Guide to Meeting Both Families
The meeting between the two families is the first official meeting of the two families of a couple about to get married, and is an important opportunity to deepen the friendship between them.
This is the beginning of a good relationship, so we want to be well prepared to proceed!

In this article, the flow of events leading up to the day of the "face to face" meeting and manners such as attire, souvenirs, and greetings,
We will also explain the recommended restaurants for face to face meetings in Kumamoto!

　

1. What is the flow of the "meeting of both families"?

1 month before
The date and location are officially confirmed and both families are notified.
Once the marriage is finalized, the bride and groom take the lead in coordinating the schedules of both families.
The venue is often chosen to be a private room in a restaurant, a ryotei (Japanese-style restaurant), or a hotel.
Japanese restaurants with private rooms are especially popular because they make a good impression on elderly relatives and create a special atmosphere.
Along with reserving the venue, confirm the menu (e.g., whether seafood dishes can be adjusted to accommodate allergies or preferences).

◇2 weeks ago
Start preparing souvenirs.
Confirm the day's attire and greeting details.

The day before
Check the required belongings based on the checklist.
Each of the two families will reconfirm access to the venue.

Day of the test
(1) Greetings and self-introductions on the day of the event
First, the bride and groom introduce their parents.
Each parent from both families will give a brief self-introduction to ease the mood of the occasion.

(2) Meals and chatting
While enjoying a meal in a relaxed atmosphere, the bride and groom will share topics related to their families and their marriage.
It is helpful to think of a topic in advance to facilitate conversation.

(iii) Discussion on marriage
If a wedding is to be held, opinions will be exchanged on the date, location, cost sharing, etc.
To avoid being formal, we will proceed only as a forum for information sharing.

Commemorative photo and dismissal
A commemorative photo will be taken and the group will disperse.
Don't forget to give a final thank-you greeting.

  

2. choice of attire for the meeting of both families

In the case of men
Suit is basic
Suits in subdued colors such as black, navy and gray are common.
Choose a white shirt and match a tie that is not too flashy.
Shoes should be black leather shoes with a clean look.

For casual occasions
Jackets and slacks are worn with smart casual wear in mind.
Choose colors in subdued tones.

For women
Dresses and set-ups
Colors that give a soft impression, such as pastel colors and beige, are suitable.
Skirt length should be below the knee, and a less revealing design should be chosen.

Japanese-style clothing is also an option.
Visiting kimono and kimono without color have dignity and can create a special atmosphere.
Choose a pattern that is appropriate for the season.

◇Accessories
Keep the design small and simple, and avoid being too flashy.

  

3. souvenirs for the meeting of both families

◇Points for selecting souvenirs
Local specialties
Local specialties and reputable sweets are recommended.
Examples: Japanese sweets, baked sweets, fine fruits

Choose the disappearing item.
Food, drinks, and other non-formal items are safe.

Packaging and Messages
Choose one that is carefully wrapped and include a simple message card to make a good impression.

How to give
Hand it over with both hands and add a few words, "Thank you for your cooperation today.
It is also important to discuss the price range of the souvenir in advance to avoid rudeness on the part of the recipient.

  

4. points of greetings

Examples of Bride's and Groom's Greetings
Opening Remarks
Thank you for taking time out of your busy schedule to join us today."
I hope this will be a good opportunity to deepen the friendship between our two families."

Closing remarks
Thank you for your continued support."
I value your input and look forward to building a good marriage."

Greetings from both parents
Example: "Thank you very much for this opportunity to meet you today.
I look forward to working with you in the future."
If you are meeting for the first time, you may wish to briefly introduce yourself and congratulate the children.

◇Cautions
Avoid overly long greetings and keep them brief and polite.
It is important to remember to express your gratitude.
A face to face meeting is a special once-in-a-lifetime event.
Be well prepared and make it a good opportunity to strengthen the bond between the two families.

  

5. Japanese restaurants with delicious seafood recommended for a meeting in Kumamoto

Our restaurant, Kumamoto Uozora, offers creative Japanese cuisine using fresh seafood and seasonal ingredients for your important occasions.
Please enjoy the seasonal delicacies in a high quality Japanese modern space.

Private room seating
All private rooms are available with table seating.
The atmosphere is warm and relaxed, and you don't have to worry about what people around you think.
Please enjoy your meal

Private room for 2 to 4 persons】 【Private room for 5 to 6 persons】 【Private room for 7 to 12 persons】and
Available for 4 to 12 persons.
 
Introduction of ◇Meeting Course
 

 
Celebrations only [For face to face meetings and celebrations] Celebration occasions
Total 11 dishes 6,000 yen (tax included)
【Pre-dish】Seasonal Gastronomic Vinegar
【8 kinds of delicacies】Delicacies in Higo celebratory craft
【Bowl dish】Clam and mitsuba (Japanese parsley)
【First dish】Three kinds of sashimi of the four seasons
【Grilled dish】Wakasa style grill of Sea bream
【Susumezakana】Steamed egg with sea urchin
【Fried dish】Seasonal tempura of Kuruma-prawn
【Meal】Rice with red beans
【End soup】Mixed miso soup
【Pickled dish】Lightly pickled ginger
【Dessert】Today's dessert

 
Celebration only [For face to face meetings and celebrations] A Time of Elegance
Total 12 dishes 8,000 yen (tax included)
【Pre-dish】Seasonal Gastronomic Vinegar
【8 kinds of delicacies】Delicacies in Higo celebratory craft
【Bowl dish】Clam and mitsuba (Japanese parsley)
【First dish】Three kinds of sashimi of the four seasons
【Sashimi】 Sea bream sashimi
【Grilled dish】Roast beef of Kumamoto Aka-gyu
【Susumezakana】Steamed egg with sea urchin
【Fried dish】Seasonal tempura of Kuruma-prawn
【Meal】Rice with red beans
【End soup】Mixed miso soup
【Pickled dish】Lightly pickled ginger
【Dessert】Today's dessert

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A face to face meeting is a special once-in-a-lifetime event. Be well prepared and make it a good opportunity to strengthen the bond between the two families.

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